Q. Had a week of skiing out west- all expenses paid, even airfare. Would like to express my appreciation to my boyfriend's parents. Have done photo albums in the past- any new ideas? I am a college grad student with a hefty loan but do have signifcant savings from a summer job.
A. http://amzn.to/xXjrlv is a thank you coffee and chocolate basket
http://amzn.to/wvkJmn is a "thanks a million gift basket"
http://amzn.to/AdOOKE willow tree thank you wall plaque
http://amzn.to/ABkDNA thank you ghiradelli chocolates
hope this helps!!
http://amzn.to/wvkJmn is a "thanks a million gift basket"
http://amzn.to/AdOOKE willow tree thank you wall plaque
http://amzn.to/ABkDNA thank you ghiradelli chocolates
hope this helps!!
How can I feel better with my mother inlaw?
Q. I recently found out that i am pregnant with my husbands and mine first child -- very exciting! However I've seen the way my mother in law acts with my now six month old neice, and I'm scared that she will be the same with my child.
It's not that she's being abusive or mean to her, but she spoils her rotten, and goes against everything that my brother and sister inlaw say they want to do for her.
I appreciate that it's her first grandchild and she may go a little nuts over her, but I don't want to be forced into doing anything or have her teach my child that if mom and dad say no then they can go to grandma.
How can I communicate to her that this is our baby and we get to make the final decisions on things?
It's not that she's being abusive or mean to her, but she spoils her rotten, and goes against everything that my brother and sister inlaw say they want to do for her.
I appreciate that it's her first grandchild and she may go a little nuts over her, but I don't want to be forced into doing anything or have her teach my child that if mom and dad say no then they can go to grandma.
How can I communicate to her that this is our baby and we get to make the final decisions on things?
A. Hi there
This is a tough one, but the most important thing is not to let this interfere with the joy you have right now, of being pregnant.
It's very important that you and your husband provide a united front on this issue. If he lets her do anything she wants because he doesn't want to hurt her feelings, you will have issues.
My own mother wants to do anything and everything for my son, and all along, we have said, "Please make sure that if you're looking at a major purchase, you talk with us first. We have very specific ideas about raising our son." Once, she sent him money (she lives away, so gifts just "appear" in the mail!) for a mobile phone-- at age ten! And my husband and I have all along said "No." So I contacted her and said "We aren't allowing him a mobile phone. What would you like me to do with this cheque?" She had us tear it up, and she actually said, "He's my grandson, I should be able to get him anything I want" (I can almost see you nodding and thinking this is what your mother-in-law will say), and at that time, I said to my mother, "But this is my son, and I live with him every day, and we know what we want for him. Please don't make big purchases without asking."
As for all the other things, when gifts arrive, we put them away until a special occasion arises. I know some of it isn't about "things," but about behaviour, and we make it as clear as possible to our son that some things are not allowed at home, that are only allowed at grandma's. That's a little complex for a littlie to understand, but if you keep it up, that may be the best you can do.
As grandparents they do have "spoiling" rights, but not "ruining" rights. Keep careful watch, and allow both to indulge a little. It's what keeps the grandparent-grandchild bond special. But set your boundaries, otherwise everyone will be miserable, including the "spoiled" child!
Enjoy your pregnancy!! (And don't forget that a few subtle hints along the way won't hurt either!)
This is a tough one, but the most important thing is not to let this interfere with the joy you have right now, of being pregnant.
It's very important that you and your husband provide a united front on this issue. If he lets her do anything she wants because he doesn't want to hurt her feelings, you will have issues.
My own mother wants to do anything and everything for my son, and all along, we have said, "Please make sure that if you're looking at a major purchase, you talk with us first. We have very specific ideas about raising our son." Once, she sent him money (she lives away, so gifts just "appear" in the mail!) for a mobile phone-- at age ten! And my husband and I have all along said "No." So I contacted her and said "We aren't allowing him a mobile phone. What would you like me to do with this cheque?" She had us tear it up, and she actually said, "He's my grandson, I should be able to get him anything I want" (I can almost see you nodding and thinking this is what your mother-in-law will say), and at that time, I said to my mother, "But this is my son, and I live with him every day, and we know what we want for him. Please don't make big purchases without asking."
As for all the other things, when gifts arrive, we put them away until a special occasion arises. I know some of it isn't about "things," but about behaviour, and we make it as clear as possible to our son that some things are not allowed at home, that are only allowed at grandma's. That's a little complex for a littlie to understand, but if you keep it up, that may be the best you can do.
As grandparents they do have "spoiling" rights, but not "ruining" rights. Keep careful watch, and allow both to indulge a little. It's what keeps the grandparent-grandchild bond special. But set your boundaries, otherwise everyone will be miserable, including the "spoiled" child!
Enjoy your pregnancy!! (And don't forget that a few subtle hints along the way won't hurt either!)
What to get inlaws that don't want me to spend money on a present?
Q. They are really my boyfriend of 4 years' parents, but that is too long to fit in the title ;P
Anyway, they know that I am pressed for money and time because I'm at an important year in school. They told me not to get them anything and focus on saving money and studying. However, I know they are getting me something. Do you have any good ideas of something I can make or do for them that won't really break that rule? Cookies, etc?
Thanks ;)
Anyway, they know that I am pressed for money and time because I'm at an important year in school. They told me not to get them anything and focus on saving money and studying. However, I know they are getting me something. Do you have any good ideas of something I can make or do for them that won't really break that rule? Cookies, etc?
Thanks ;)
A. Here are a few places where you can make gifts, and they come with instructions...
http://www.google.com/#hl=en&tbo=d&sclient=psy-ab&q=Easy+to+make+Christmas+presents&oq=Easy+to+make+Christmas+presents&gs_l=serp.12...0.0.4.44.0.0.0.0.0.0.0.0..0.0.les%3B..0.0...1c.obLEAlSTdlM&psj=1&bav=on.2,or.r_gc.r_pw.r_qf.&fp=36ad7c0967172426&bpcl=39650382&biw=811&bih=466
Another great place to go is www.instructables.com, they have any tutorial imaginable for doing it yourself projects and all instructions are written and with step by step pictures.
I hope this helps.
http://www.google.com/#hl=en&tbo=d&sclient=psy-ab&q=Easy+to+make+Christmas+presents&oq=Easy+to+make+Christmas+presents&gs_l=serp.12...0.0.4.44.0.0.0.0.0.0.0.0..0.0.les%3B..0.0...1c.obLEAlSTdlM&psj=1&bav=on.2,or.r_gc.r_pw.r_qf.&fp=36ad7c0967172426&bpcl=39650382&biw=811&bih=466
Another great place to go is www.instructables.com, they have any tutorial imaginable for doing it yourself projects and all instructions are written and with step by step pictures.
I hope this helps.
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