Q. Since last year my now 9 year old daughter has been giving me hints that she knows he doesn't exist, reason; another girl told her, so i sat down and asked her what she thought, she said she was confused, i told her that santa exists, i didn't want to take that away from her, this morning she brought the subject up again, i asked why, she said that when we spent xmas at grandmas there was no possible way that santa could bring gifts while we were up and no one saw him i explained to her that the gifts at grandma's were from each other but that if she remembers when we got home the gifts from santa were there and no one had been home. I know that it would be selfish to tell her the truth if she is not yet sure, but this year we have had financial issues and we are stretching as much as we can, i know that if i explained things to her she would understand and maybe not be so expectant on things....what should i do?, she's so understanding but then taking that from her?
A. There was a Christmas story forward going around (I couldn't find it to share with you unfortunately) -- it had the best explanation on how to handle this kind of situation. So I'll try to retell it, summing it up as best I can.
The story is about a young girl (about 8) who gets told there's no Santa by other kids. She wonders about it, but then decides to ask her grandma, since her grandma would tell her the truth about it. So she goes to her grandma's house where she's baking cinnamon buns and asks her if Santa exists because kids told her otherwise.
Grandma tells her, "Of course he does, that rumor that he doesn't has been going around for years, you pay no attention to it. Come along with me." And she takes her to a general store. She hands her a $10 bill and tells her to go inside and buy a present for someone she can think of who really needs one.
The girl takes the money and goes in herself, a bit out of sorts since she's never bought anything by herself before, and to her $10 was a lot of money. So she looked around with all the busy shoppers, and she thought of this boy at school, Bobby, who never went outside to play at recess. His mom gave the teacher a note saying he had a cough and couldn't go out, but she knew it was because he didn't have a jacket. She decided to get Bobby a jacket so he could play outside. She found a nice red one and brought it up to the counter.
The woman asked, "Is this a gift?"
The girl answered, "Yes, it's for my friend, Bobby."
The woman at the counter smiled, took the $10 and didn't have any change to give back. She put it in a bag and the girl took the bag and ran back to the car.
Grandma took the girl back to her house and they wrapped it up in a box with pretty paper and a bow. When they folded the jacket inside the box, a tag fell off, and Grandma tucked the tag inside her Bible. They put a note on the box that said, "To Bobby, from Santa." Grandma explained that this was a way of helping out Santa with his work, he likes to keep things top secret. And now she was officially one of Santa's secret helpers.
They drove over to where Bobby lived and parked a few houses down. They hid behind some bushes near the street.
Grandma told the girl, "Okay, coast's clear!" The girl ran over to the front porch and placed the present at the front door, rang the bell and ran back. Then they waited and watched as Bobby came out onto the porch and found the present with excitement and ran back inside.
As this girl got older, she said she'd never forget the feeling of that time when Bobby found his present from Santa. She thought of this as she looked at the tag that was inside Grandma's Bible with a price that read, "$19.95."
I may not have retold it as well as I found it, but the idea is Grandma taught her the true meaning of Christmas, the true meaning of giving, and the Christmas spirit. I hope this helps and gives you an idea of how to teach your daughter that, in a way that she can understand and enjoy Christmas even more. And don't forget St. Nick does watch over us, especially the children whom he's made toys for all his life.
The story is about a young girl (about 8) who gets told there's no Santa by other kids. She wonders about it, but then decides to ask her grandma, since her grandma would tell her the truth about it. So she goes to her grandma's house where she's baking cinnamon buns and asks her if Santa exists because kids told her otherwise.
Grandma tells her, "Of course he does, that rumor that he doesn't has been going around for years, you pay no attention to it. Come along with me." And she takes her to a general store. She hands her a $10 bill and tells her to go inside and buy a present for someone she can think of who really needs one.
The girl takes the money and goes in herself, a bit out of sorts since she's never bought anything by herself before, and to her $10 was a lot of money. So she looked around with all the busy shoppers, and she thought of this boy at school, Bobby, who never went outside to play at recess. His mom gave the teacher a note saying he had a cough and couldn't go out, but she knew it was because he didn't have a jacket. She decided to get Bobby a jacket so he could play outside. She found a nice red one and brought it up to the counter.
The woman asked, "Is this a gift?"
The girl answered, "Yes, it's for my friend, Bobby."
The woman at the counter smiled, took the $10 and didn't have any change to give back. She put it in a bag and the girl took the bag and ran back to the car.
Grandma took the girl back to her house and they wrapped it up in a box with pretty paper and a bow. When they folded the jacket inside the box, a tag fell off, and Grandma tucked the tag inside her Bible. They put a note on the box that said, "To Bobby, from Santa." Grandma explained that this was a way of helping out Santa with his work, he likes to keep things top secret. And now she was officially one of Santa's secret helpers.
They drove over to where Bobby lived and parked a few houses down. They hid behind some bushes near the street.
Grandma told the girl, "Okay, coast's clear!" The girl ran over to the front porch and placed the present at the front door, rang the bell and ran back. Then they waited and watched as Bobby came out onto the porch and found the present with excitement and ran back inside.
As this girl got older, she said she'd never forget the feeling of that time when Bobby found his present from Santa. She thought of this as she looked at the tag that was inside Grandma's Bible with a price that read, "$19.95."
I may not have retold it as well as I found it, but the idea is Grandma taught her the true meaning of Christmas, the true meaning of giving, and the Christmas spirit. I hope this helps and gives you an idea of how to teach your daughter that, in a way that she can understand and enjoy Christmas even more. And don't forget St. Nick does watch over us, especially the children whom he's made toys for all his life.
Why do people underestimate the suffering of those who have Aspergers?
Q. I'm a life-long sufferer of Asperger's Syndrome (I'm 19 years old now), and also have OCD and resulting depression and anxiety from the stress. I don't like to talk about my disorder much because people think I'm crazy or weird, but I'm gonna spill my guts here.
People often say it is a "mild" or "less bad" form of Autism, but in some ways I think it is actually worse. Yes, we are often gifted with intelligence, but we also have to risk seeing it go to waste.
To give you an idea of what it's like for us (I can only speak for myself really but I've heard for many other people it's similar) I'll explain what it's done to my life.
I did not speak until I was three years old, aside from a few words here and there. From then on, my speech became very complex for my age.
By the time I hit six, I had a bipolar-like personality in which 95% of the time I was very gentle and kept to myself, but 5% of the time I would throw fits and go absolutely nuts.
I missed years of school because I was not well enough to participate, and when I was in school, the other kids bullied and abused me, and I didn't even realize I was being picked on because I was too naive. My older brother would get angry with me and hit me pretty much every day when I said something insensitive or did something stupid, and it hurt my self-esteem and made me dislike authority.
A month before I turned 8, I was sent to a psychiatric hospital and believed I was being punished, and I hated doctors because I had to tell them shamefully about my problems and i was oversensitive to people's touch.
My sexuality has been very damaged because of this and I can't associate it with love. The women I'm attracted to physically are not the same women I'm attracted to romantically.
From age 10 to age 13, I had constant nightmares of being abducted by aliens, and my OCD had made me believe I was an arsonist and had lit fires, and this killed my self esteem as I believed I had caused people to die and put my family in danger. I ended up hating myself and gave up on my future, and did reckless things like jump off bridges and run away, and had multiple close encounters with death. I had considered suicide by one point, but thankfully by that time I was finding myself and realizing everything that was happening to me and in the past 3 years I have healed tremendously.
So before you say Asperger's Syndrome isn't a real disease, or it's a blessing, or not a big deal, think about that.
Thank you.
People often say it is a "mild" or "less bad" form of Autism, but in some ways I think it is actually worse. Yes, we are often gifted with intelligence, but we also have to risk seeing it go to waste.
To give you an idea of what it's like for us (I can only speak for myself really but I've heard for many other people it's similar) I'll explain what it's done to my life.
I did not speak until I was three years old, aside from a few words here and there. From then on, my speech became very complex for my age.
By the time I hit six, I had a bipolar-like personality in which 95% of the time I was very gentle and kept to myself, but 5% of the time I would throw fits and go absolutely nuts.
I missed years of school because I was not well enough to participate, and when I was in school, the other kids bullied and abused me, and I didn't even realize I was being picked on because I was too naive. My older brother would get angry with me and hit me pretty much every day when I said something insensitive or did something stupid, and it hurt my self-esteem and made me dislike authority.
A month before I turned 8, I was sent to a psychiatric hospital and believed I was being punished, and I hated doctors because I had to tell them shamefully about my problems and i was oversensitive to people's touch.
My sexuality has been very damaged because of this and I can't associate it with love. The women I'm attracted to physically are not the same women I'm attracted to romantically.
From age 10 to age 13, I had constant nightmares of being abducted by aliens, and my OCD had made me believe I was an arsonist and had lit fires, and this killed my self esteem as I believed I had caused people to die and put my family in danger. I ended up hating myself and gave up on my future, and did reckless things like jump off bridges and run away, and had multiple close encounters with death. I had considered suicide by one point, but thankfully by that time I was finding myself and realizing everything that was happening to me and in the past 3 years I have healed tremendously.
So before you say Asperger's Syndrome isn't a real disease, or it's a blessing, or not a big deal, think about that.
Thank you.
A. I think the reasons are many.
The severity of Asperger's syndrome varies between individuals, so there are some aspies out there who go through life with very little problems. People see that and think it's the same for all other aspies, but in reality there are also many aspies struggling and suffering daily.
Another reason is that much of the suffering goes on inside the person and is not visible on the outside due to our different body language and difficulty expressing our emotions, so other people may not be aware of the suffering.
Sometimes people look at only one aspect of someone's life and judge the rest by it. If someone does well academically people tend to assume they'll do well in life and are not in need of any help. They don't always notice the lack of friends, loneliness, social problems, bullying etc. There's also the stereotype that all aspies are blessed with high intelligence and are geniuses at something, which people believe will make everything ok in our lives.
The severity of Asperger's syndrome varies between individuals, so there are some aspies out there who go through life with very little problems. People see that and think it's the same for all other aspies, but in reality there are also many aspies struggling and suffering daily.
Another reason is that much of the suffering goes on inside the person and is not visible on the outside due to our different body language and difficulty expressing our emotions, so other people may not be aware of the suffering.
Sometimes people look at only one aspect of someone's life and judge the rest by it. If someone does well academically people tend to assume they'll do well in life and are not in need of any help. They don't always notice the lack of friends, loneliness, social problems, bullying etc. There's also the stereotype that all aspies are blessed with high intelligence and are geniuses at something, which people believe will make everything ok in our lives.
Why do people underestimate the suffering of those who have Aspergers?
Q. I'm a life-long sufferer of Asperger's Syndrome (I'm 19 years old now), and also have OCD and resulting depression and anxiety from the stress. I don't like to talk about my disorder much because people think I'm crazy or weird, but I'm gonna spill my guts here.
People often say it is a "mild" or "less bad" form of Autism, but in some ways I think it is actually worse. Yes, we are often gifted with intelligence, but we also have to risk seeing it go to waste.
To give you an idea of what it's like for us (I can only speak for myself really but I've heard for many other people it's similar) I'll explain what it's done to my life.
I did not speak until I was three years old, aside from a few words here and there. From then on, my speech became very complex for my age.
By the time I hit six, I had a bipolar-like personality in which 95% of the time I was very gentle and kept to myself, but 5% of the time I would throw fits and go absolutely nuts.
I missed years of school because I was not well enough to participate, and when I was in school, the other kids bullied and abused me, and I didn't even realize I was being picked on because I was too naive. My older brother would get angry with me and hit me pretty much every day when I said something insensitive or did something stupid, and it hurt my self-esteem and made me dislike authority.
A month before I turned 8, I was sent to a psychiatric hospital and believed I was being punished, and I hated doctors because I had to tell them shamefully about my problems and i was oversensitive to people's touch.
My sexuality has been very damaged because of this and I can't associate it with love. The women I'm attracted to physically are not the same women I'm attracted to romantically.
From age 10 to age 13, I had constant nightmares of being abducted by aliens, and my OCD had made me believe I was an arsonist and had lit fires, and this killed my self esteem as I believed I had caused people to die and put my family in danger. I ended up hating myself and gave up on my future, and did reckless things like jump off bridges and run away, and had multiple close encounters with death. I had considered suicide by one point, but thankfully by that time I was finding myself and realizing everything that was happening to me and in the past 3 years I have healed tremendously.
So before you say Asperger's Syndrome isn't a real disease, or it's a blessing, or not a big deal, think about that.
People often say it is a "mild" or "less bad" form of Autism, but in some ways I think it is actually worse. Yes, we are often gifted with intelligence, but we also have to risk seeing it go to waste.
To give you an idea of what it's like for us (I can only speak for myself really but I've heard for many other people it's similar) I'll explain what it's done to my life.
I did not speak until I was three years old, aside from a few words here and there. From then on, my speech became very complex for my age.
By the time I hit six, I had a bipolar-like personality in which 95% of the time I was very gentle and kept to myself, but 5% of the time I would throw fits and go absolutely nuts.
I missed years of school because I was not well enough to participate, and when I was in school, the other kids bullied and abused me, and I didn't even realize I was being picked on because I was too naive. My older brother would get angry with me and hit me pretty much every day when I said something insensitive or did something stupid, and it hurt my self-esteem and made me dislike authority.
A month before I turned 8, I was sent to a psychiatric hospital and believed I was being punished, and I hated doctors because I had to tell them shamefully about my problems and i was oversensitive to people's touch.
My sexuality has been very damaged because of this and I can't associate it with love. The women I'm attracted to physically are not the same women I'm attracted to romantically.
From age 10 to age 13, I had constant nightmares of being abducted by aliens, and my OCD had made me believe I was an arsonist and had lit fires, and this killed my self esteem as I believed I had caused people to die and put my family in danger. I ended up hating myself and gave up on my future, and did reckless things like jump off bridges and run away, and had multiple close encounters with death. I had considered suicide by one point, but thankfully by that time I was finding myself and realizing everything that was happening to me and in the past 3 years I have healed tremendously.
So before you say Asperger's Syndrome isn't a real disease, or it's a blessing, or not a big deal, think about that.
A. thanks for telling us about that, really make me think.
im so sorry that youve had to dedal with that
you cant make people sympathetic to things they do not understand. they will never be able to put themselves into your shoes and know what it is like, unless you talk to someone suffering to same condition
i have a physical condition. i try to explain the pain i am constantly in all during the winter (or in cold weather) but no one will understand.
im so sorry that youve had to dedal with that
you cant make people sympathetic to things they do not understand. they will never be able to put themselves into your shoes and know what it is like, unless you talk to someone suffering to same condition
i have a physical condition. i try to explain the pain i am constantly in all during the winter (or in cold weather) but no one will understand.
Baby shower.......?
Q. Tom orrow is my second baby shower!!!! My fiance has a 5 year old daughter from another women and she knows about the baby...I was thinking about getting her a big sister present to open tomorrow and she will also be helping me open mine ( that way we are making her feel as though she is a part of this too) anyways. Anyone have any suggestions on what to get her....
yester day went to the doctor....she says everything is normal and head is in position....i'm due december 15....is this about the time that the head gets in position????? this is my first!
yester day went to the doctor....she says everything is normal and head is in position....i'm due december 15....is this about the time that the head gets in position????? this is my first!
A. Here are some ideas for you:
Big Sister Celebration Gift Basket from Blueberry Babies ($39.00) http://www.blueberrybabies.com/gb-bs.html
Big Sister's On Duty Tool Belt from CookiePots ($29.95) http://www.cookiepots.com/Big-Sister-Toolbelt.htm
Busy Big Sis Kit from MaternalYouth.com ($39.99) http://www.maternalyouth.com/pd_busy_big.cfm
If the Baby is a little Girl: Big Sister, Little Sister Personalized Dolls from Personal Creations ($25.90) http://www.personalcreations.com/shop/thumbnail.asp?ensemble_code=1495X&world_code=1&category_code=&subcategory_code=&search_type=subcategory&ovchn=&ovcpn=&ovcrn=&ovtac=&referr=sh&GCID=&Keyword=1495X&WT.srch=&WT.mc_id=FindGift>KW=&sbgid=&ref=http://www.findgift.com/Occasions/New-Baby/New-Big-Sister/
There are about 600 other ideas on this list from Find Gift for a New Big Sister: http://www.findgift.com/Occasions/New-Baby/New-Big-Sister/
I hope you find what you are looking for. I think getting her a gift will be a great idea. Congratulations!
Big Sister Celebration Gift Basket from Blueberry Babies ($39.00) http://www.blueberrybabies.com/gb-bs.html
Big Sister's On Duty Tool Belt from CookiePots ($29.95) http://www.cookiepots.com/Big-Sister-Toolbelt.htm
Busy Big Sis Kit from MaternalYouth.com ($39.99) http://www.maternalyouth.com/pd_busy_big.cfm
If the Baby is a little Girl: Big Sister, Little Sister Personalized Dolls from Personal Creations ($25.90) http://www.personalcreations.com/shop/thumbnail.asp?ensemble_code=1495X&world_code=1&category_code=&subcategory_code=&search_type=subcategory&ovchn=&ovcpn=&ovcrn=&ovtac=&referr=sh&GCID=&Keyword=1495X&WT.srch=&WT.mc_id=FindGift>KW=&sbgid=&ref=http://www.findgift.com/Occasions/New-Baby/New-Big-Sister/
There are about 600 other ideas on this list from Find Gift for a New Big Sister: http://www.findgift.com/Occasions/New-Baby/New-Big-Sister/
I hope you find what you are looking for. I think getting her a gift will be a great idea. Congratulations!
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