why does my mother in law try to get my husbands kids against me?

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I have been with my fiance for 3 years. Our wedding date is in Nov. 2011. Here's the deal, My husband was married once before and had two children with his ex wife. They have been divorced since 1998 , so that is what?... 13 years divorced.
My fiance told me that AFTER they divorced his own mother informed him that if he was to EVER get back with her She (his mother) would DISOWN him.

My fiances kids are now 20 and 21

The problem is, is that any little fault I may have or anything that my fiance tells his mother about us whether it is good or bad, she will ignore the good of coarse and take the bad to immediately use it as an excuse to call my fiances EX WIFE and report all the details and juicy gossip. Knowing that in time all of it gets repeated to the kids eventually by the EX Wife. They hear ONLY one tainted side of story never even ask to hear MY SIDE or my fiance's side for that matter
To this day I have never met or even talked to his daughter, I met and have talked to his son (which by the way is serving a prison sentence right now for drugs.... nice huh?) and we are on okay terms but he has Definately passed judgement on me based on what my finace's mother and ex wife has said about me. I know this because of things he has told me. It seems that his daughter just has no interest in me, because I feel , she has already condemed me without really knowing me. Yhis REALLY hurts and bothers me!.....I love my fiance SO MUCH and would love to have his children accept me based on THEIR own oppinion of me and NOT SOMEONE ELSES or them NOT being Manipulated by someone else's thoughts or ideas.

The future mother in law has been extremely Nasty to me, I only tried to be there for her. and at one time I really liked her and was excited to go visit her......She is addicted to pain pills and often uses that as an excuse for her bad behavior. She all around is often NOT a PLEASENT person to be around , she can be rude and nasty to everyone. I reaLLY wanted to love her....she hurt me at Christmas time, She called me out on my eating disorder in front of everyone and said, " I should of gotton you a bottle of laxatives and diuretics for a gift, you would of been happy with that right!?"....I was so embarresed and CRUSHED!!!...what prompted her to do that to me?.....I was SO nice to her. It came unexpected, and just her NASTINESS shinning through.

Well my fiance was LIVID!....He stood up to her! and we left. He has NOT been there to see her since and that was christmas of 2009, almost 2 years ago.

So, What does his Mother in law do??? calls his EX WIFE, It is his EX meaning done, over with NOthing is any of her bussiness,( unless it has to do with the kids, then again the kids are adults now and can deal with their father DIRECTLY without going thru the ex wife on MOST matters)
She dumps all this nasty crap about me to the EX WIFE, and she is crying and playing victim that her son walked out on her at Christmas and it was ALL my fault. Did NOT tell the ex what she had actually done to me....the truth. Not that any of this is the EX's business.....so 30 min later the EX and his daughter start blowing up his cell phone. his daughter started going off to her dad about ME, then her dad(my fiance), told his daughter what REALLY happened and who was AT FAULT.

ever since then his ex is calling and visiting her EX MIL all the time....and is friending ALL his family members she can find on Facebook, all of a sudden, she hadn't talked to them for like 13 years sinced they have been divorced

My fiance told his mom to appoligize to me before he thinks about comming around in her life but he told her that It depends on IF she can accept me as being the women He truly loves. and treat me with respect or he told her she would lose him entirely. He also told her to leave the ex out of things ! and to it getting twisted and told to the kids, so they could have a false judgement on me without knowing the other side of the story or even knowing me personally.

She refuses to appoligize!!

Why is she like this????
Why is she doing this??....what could be her MOTIVE or Gain??

Feedback is MUCH appreciated!

Answer
This is all irrelevant and in your head. The mother in law is irrelevant and pointless character in this story. The ex is pointless and irrelevant to this story and the children are grown up and beyond need of improvement. What is relevant to this story is you and your partner. It seems like your parent is on your side and that is what counts. Ignore the rest, if they can't accept you then you eliminate them from the equation until they can behave.

Best of luck.

My Friend's mom has Cancer Just before Christmas!? How do i help?

Katie

My Best Friend Krista's mom has just been Diagnosed with Lung Cancer. Her older sister Stephanie(who is a Senior in High School) is upset and doesn't speak to her friends or her Cheer-leading team (she is captain). But, Krista (who is a Sophomore as am i) is always talking with us and with her boyfriend( of 2 years). Krista is the type of person who just accepts the things God has done and tries to figure out her own way to fix it. Krista and her boyfriend Chris are Captain of the Soccer team so they got together to make a fundraiser to help with Cancer research. They made a soccer clinic at our High School for over winter break to help kids learn soccer skills (which i think is amazing and so does our Principal and their coaches). Christopher's dad passed away earlier on in the year after a 10 year battle with Cancer. Her dad is also helping out (he is great at soccer) as well as her 2 younger brothers and chris's 2 younger brothers (who are the same age as Krista's and who love soccer as well) Our whole Community loves Krista and her family, but we are confused on how to help Krista and her family during the Holiday season while she is helping out us? our friends want to get her a awesome christmas present but still don't know what? How do we help out Krista, Her wonderful parents and Older sister and 2 younger brothers (one who is in 8th grade one who is in 3rd grade)? Also do you think it is a good idea for our gaelic football team (chris's and krista's) to also raise money?

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I would give your friend a copy of this video and ask them to look at it before agreeing to any treatments offered by modern mainstream medicine today.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fduMpYhv1_M&feature=related

Knowing that lung cancer, colon cancer, and breast cancer is NOT helped by ANY chemotherapy, I would tell her to be very aware of any doctors or anyone recommending that treatment. I would suggest she look at alternative medicine as the answer. To get a perspective on the real data numbers of how ineffective mainstream medicine is regarding CANCER, go to this website and look at this study that shows only 2.1% of people that get chemotherapy for most common cancers (lung cancer included) live longer than 5 years.

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/15630849

Now realize that people who opt not to get chemotherapy generally live longer. That information would be the best Christmas gift I can imagine you could do for her.

Another video that would be good for her to see, but not related to tumors or cancer, but shows a woman who did her homework and cured her multiple sclerosis with food and supplements, after the medical people gave up.

http://articles.mercola.com/sites/articles/archive/2011/12/23/overcoming-multiple-sclerosis-through-diet.aspx?e_cid=20111223_DNL_art_1

good luck to you

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