I want to knit or crochet an infinity scarf...?

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solostinth

im a total beginner besides knitting a few years ago and getting half done and forgetting about it. my boyfriends family has a tradition where all the women make the gifts that they give and i want to be in on it as of next christmas. i would like to knit something by christmas time this year, but im not sure what is easy enough to start on...could i go for the infinity scarf or should i start with something else? how long would it take for me to complete a scarf? i know it differs by person and all but on average?

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Look for patterns that are rated "easy" and "quick" and/or use fat yarn and large needles.

For example, quick, easy scarves: http://www.lionbrand.com/cgi-bin/patternFinder.fcgi?search=Search&store=%2Fstores%2Feyarn&resultPageTemplate=ResultPage.html&resultItemTemplate=ResultItem.txt&noResultPageTemplate=NoResultPage.html&case=no&primaryServer=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.lionbrand.com&minPrice=0&noBoolean=1&searchText=quick+easy+scarf+knit&Go.x=13&Go.y=12&sT=1

Or try this list. Things knit on needles size 11 and up are going to go faster. http://www.redheart.com/finder/pattern?filters=tid%3A2802%20tid%3A2%20tid%3A308&amp%3Bretain-filters=1&retain-filters=1

You might like this one: http://www.acraftyhouse.com/2011/12/easy-knit-infinity-scarf-pattern-mid.html

Or this one: http://www.pickles.no/roll-cowl/

how do i get over this friendship?

Suzie

In 2011, I met a friend at church, I am in my 20s, and have social anxiety and obsessive thoughts. This woman is 40, and so is her husband and they both are kind, caring, dont gossip and possess every good quality you would want in a friend. I really wanted to be there friend. This is going to sound so abnormal, but I had been to so many churches before and the people were cold and not friendly, mostly because of my SA, and not understanding me I am sure.

My mother was a teacher, and prior to attending this church, I knew that a former student of hers and her husband went there, and this incidently was the woman I was wanting to make friends with. They just looked really nice in their facebook pictures, and being that I have obsessive thoughts I felt that they would make me feel accepted and care about me, and I could just tell from the picture they would be those kind of friends to me.

At first, they appeared so welcoming and kind like the friendship would happen, and then at times it appeared they werent as friendly, and then it would hurt me deeply, because then the thoughts would start everyone hates me.

I got to know them for about 9 months. Then they called me that they were leaving and they wanted to stay in touch and would I be interested if they kept me updating on where they attend and that our friendship would continue. The friendship has grown since then and already in this past year we have gone to dinner 4-5 times, but keep in mind they have three teenage sons and both work 40-60 hours a week, and their sons are involved in every school activity. They also call me on the phone probably every 5 weeks. I have done nice things for them too, always getting them a gift for their bday, christmas, the last time we went out to eat, I paid the bill.

I am in school, so I will be transferring to another state and they assure me that the friendship will keep on, and that they will come out and see me. Still, words can be cheap too so you dont always know their sincerity.

It bothers me that I cant tell if they are friends with me because they like me or because they feel sorry for me that I have no friends and have social anxiety.

As time is going on, I am starting to believe they are true friends, but because I have obsessive thoughts and get obsessed with people (not in an unhealthy way) but more in a way of obsessing if they like me or will hurt me. You would think I would be grateful that they appear to be friends, but now thats not enough. You know how I mentioned the church I was going to. Well several couples that attend that old church, were really nasty to me and said I was a freak under their breath, and now my obsession is on whether or not this couple is still friends with those other people.

My mind keeps harping on the fact that, I have never had any friends before, so if this couple are my friends, then they have be 10x more of a friend to these other people they used to attend church with. It made me feel special they called me after they left the church, but then I would think they probably did this for essentially everyone at the church saying they wanted to stay in touch.

My mind keeps focusing on how 2-3 of these other couples at church said mean things to me, and my mind then starts, if this couple that are my friends, are friends with them, then I cant have any respect for them, and my instincts dictate for me to end the friendship. There's apart of me that wants to end it because I feel I am going to end up hurt and another part of me that doesnt want to lose them.

What do I do? Is it possible they just called me after they left because I was sort of a new person and they didnt get to know me and wanted to pursue the friendship OR would they have called the other people two including the couples that werent nice to me?

How can you tell without asking them.

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TL; DR

Paraphrase.

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Where can I find some good personalised gift ideas for Christmas?

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Q. I'm looking for gift ideas for new borns. As a new mother myself, and with a lot of my friends having young children also, I need some help getting gifts for everyone. I feel that personalised gifts are a bit more special so something along those lines would be great!

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I found a prety good website a few weeks back, full of personalised gifts and some really good ideas for newborns like baby grows and gift baskets etc. Its www.dieselfrog.com. haev a look

What are some great gift ideas to give parents of a newborn baby or a child?

A bunch of my friends are starting to have kids now, so I want to give them a gift that is really useful and thoughtful. I usually fall back on either a bib, little baby clothes, onesies, or a gift certificate to Target. Is there anything more unique or more useful I can get the parents? Are there any customized gifts that are good? Since I don't have kids, I am clueless! Thanks!

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Newborns - DIAPERS DIAPERS AND MORE DIAPERS. I know it's boring, but it is VERY useful. Diapers are expensive and babies go through a TON. They are also ok if you get the wrong size, because they are very easily exchangable with or without a receipt.

Fantastic gift for toddlers - they have music CD's and books that you can order personalized with the children's name. Like my daughter (2 years old) has an Elmo CD that says "Come on Mia, let's play a game!" and she just LOVES it. She will listen to it over and over again...

http://www.justmymusic.com/store/index.php?main_page=product_music_info&cPath=1&products_id=5&gclid=CKr0g8zTkJcCFQFqxwodh1p6dA

My oldest (five years old) has many books that are personalized with her name printed into the story and she just thinks that is cooler than snot. :)

http://www.mychildbook.com/?gclid=COf78N7TkJcCFRJexwodhmG0Iw

Also a really nice gift that I have been given in the past was blankets and pillowcases with the children's names embriodered along the edges. It was very nice, and I knew they had put some thought into it. Don't know if you know anyone who does sews, but you should be able to find several shops that do it on commision as well.

Good luck to you! Hope I helped.... :)

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